Nine years ago, this TED video blew minds, and now ranks as one of the most-watched videos on TED, with 41+ million views.
I highly encourage it. One of the conversations that I have often, with those who are willing to embark on this conversation, is about their experience–the “structure,” you could say, of their experience. Brené Brown’s work treats, in one primary way, of vulnerability, as the fruit of the healing of shame and guilt interiorly.
One common conversation that can be had is the degree to which one possesses shame and guilt, and the degree to which the possession of this reality interiorly impairs (debatably, of course–see thoughts that follow…) or affects one’s daily experience. Brené’s question was, and remains, “Is your experience, minus guilt and shame, any different in quality or type than one with guilt and shame?”
Better yet: Have you ever tried an experience without these interior realities? Or, better-better yet-ish: Did you even know that you’re living out of really deep interior shame, guilt, a lack of self-possession, and otherwise? Ah-ha! Maybe, if someone pointed it out to you, that this is the way that you live and/or experience yourself, in an act of love, trust, and vulnerability, you’d understand that there’s someone out there who’s making a proposal and who’s had a different experience of reality.
Given that shame and guilt are universal potentialities (everyone in the world has the potential for this kind of experience, and it’s a rare person who hasn’t had it), it’s an interesting and easy place to start: I know what this felt like, once, and I sought to be vulnerable, and integral, and simple, and it changed my experience. Or something like that that. Who knows?
I encourage her writing. Reading her changed my life, and confirmed a desire to read and live in a particular way.
She now has the coolest documentary about courage available on Netflix, and I highly encourage it.